There's a saying Gives everything for sex goes, "The best plan is to profit by the folly of others. I want to share with you a few things I've learned -- the hard way -- concerning girls and relationships.
Specifically, I've jotted down ten reasons why I'm now waiting until marriage to have sex. When I was in college, I remember having an experience that I referred to as a "love hangover.
That's something you won't see on TV or in the movies, but it happens a lot. There was emptiness, even regret, afterwards. The "love hangover" was a strange occurrence for me. Mainly because when I was in college, sex was my Gives everything for sex. So you would imagine that having sex would have been completely fulfilling -- the crowning achievement in the worship of my "god.
Has that been your experience, too? Have you ever had a "love hangover"?
If you have, you should stop and consider, "Why is that? Why is it that sex, if it's so important Gives everything for sex me, leaves me with an empty feeling? I remember being confused by this emptiness. For example, we get the car we've always wanted, but then it's just "okay" after awhile.
Instead of realizing that a car can't really satisfy us, we usually make the error of thinking, "Well, I guess that wasn't the right car. A different one will give me lasting fulfillment.
But the emptiness continued. So, finally, I came to the conclusion that premarital sex wasn't all it's cracked up to be. It gets too much hype. It's not what the movies make it out to be. If it were, it would be completely fulfilling.
There wouldn't be any "emptiness. I've found that girls often don't fully understand what's going on when it comes to sex. That is, their perspective on the whole thing is very different from a guy's. Often a girl will justify sex by saying, "But I love him," even if she doesn't really want to Gives everything for sex through with it.
Why does that happen? It's been said that, "Girls use sex to get love; guys use love to get sex.
This is how it works: And while something inside her is telling her it's the right thing to do, something inside the guy is telling him just the opposite, yet he proceeds. For the physical pleasure no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: Gives everything for sex there is a great irony in that, for what is manly about deceiving a woman? Something I've discovered is that, when you honor a woman, you are honoring yourself. Because someday you will have regret, and the regret will last much longer than the pleasure.
In the movie Rob Roy, the main character says, "Honor is a gift a man gives himself. Here's what I mean: When I put myself in the shoes of those men, I wish that I hadn't done what I've done. In fact, I might even like to punch myself in the nose for it. And so it goes without saying that when I get married, I'm not going to like the idea that someone else has had his Gives everything for sex with my wife. Do you like the idea of someone else being with your wife?
If you have a girlfriend now and feel that way, think of how much stronger that feeling will be with your wife someday. You can even take it a step further. That girl is someone's daughter. What if she were my daughter?
Or what if she were my sister? Would I want some guy like me taking advantage of her? I now see girls from a different perspective. They're someone else's future wife, someone else's daughter, sister, etc.
For example, I had a college sweetheart, the girl of my dreams. With her, there was never a dull moment. Sex soon became the focus of our relationship. I stopped wanting to get to Gives everything for sex her on any other level. And so, instead of growing closer together, we actually started drifting apart.
That's what I mean by "sex killed my best relationships. But when my girlfriend and I started relating mostly physically, it short-circuited the other parts of our relationship. As a result, the relationship as a whole Gives everything for sex to go south. We might still be together today if we I had waited. I've seen this happen with countless relationships, not just others of my own, but those of many other people. And I think there's a reason for this, which I'll explain next.
For me, two things happened once I had sex with a girl. As I look back on it, I can say that they happened literally every time, although I was unaware of these dynamics at the time.